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<blockquote>The first [[love]]-[[object ]] of the boy is his mother, and she remains as such in the [[formation ]] of his ffidipus- [[complex]], and, ultimately, throughout his [[whole ]] [[life]]. For the little [[girl]], too, her mother must be her first object (together with [[figures ]] of nurses and [[other ]] attendants that merge into hers); the first object-[[cathexes]], indeed, follow the lines of the [[satisfaction ]] of the great and simple [[needs ]] of life, and the circumstances in which the [[child ]] is nursed are the same for both [[sexes]]. In the ffidipus [[situation]], however, the father has become the little girl's love-object, and it is from him that, in the normal course of [[development]], she should find her way to her ultimate object-[[choice]]. The girl has, then, in the course of [[time ]] to [[change ]] both her [[erotogenic ]] zone and her object, while the boy keeps both of [[them ]] unchanged.<ref>{{NILP}} Ch. 5</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>But no fact has more [[claim ]] to our attention than this-that a small child's [[sexual ]] wishes are regularly directed towards those who stand in closest [[relationship ]] to it; in the first [[place]], its father and mother, and beyond them its brothers and sisters. For a boy, the mother is the first love-object, for a girl the father, so far as a bisexual disposition does not call also for the reverse attitude at the same time. The other parent is felt to be a disturbing rival, and is not seldom regarded with acute enmity.<ref>{{QLA}} Ch. 4</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>I could not point to any [[need ]] in [[childhood ]] so strong as that for a father's protection.<ref>{{C&D}} Ch. 1</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>The [[idea ]] of [[being ]] eaten by the father belongs to the typical [[primal ]] stock of childhood [[ideas]]; analogies from mythology (Kronos) and from [[animal ]] life are generally familiar.<ref>{{PoA}} Ch. 4</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>We have made the most surprising discoveries [[about ]] these [[women ]] who display intense and prolonged father-fixations. We knew, of course, that there had been an earlier [[stage ]] in which they were attached to their mother; but we did not [[know ]] that it was so rich in [[content]], that it persisted so long, and that it could leave behind it so many occasions for fixations and predispositions. During this time, their father is no more than an irksome rival. In many cases the attachment to the mother lasts beyond the fourth year; almost everything that we find later in the father-relation was already [[present ]] in that attachment, and has been subse­quently transferred on to the father. In short, we gain the conviction that one cannot [[understand ]] women, unless one estimates this ''[[preoedipal ]] attachment to the mother'' at its proper [[value]].<ref>{{NILP}} Ch. 5</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>A child's first [[erotic ]] object is the mother's [[breast ]] that feeds him, and love in its beginnings attaches itself to the satisfaction of the need for food. To start with, the child cer­tainly makes no [[distinction ]] between the breast and his own [[body]]; when the breast has to be separated from his body and shifted to the "[[outside]]" because he so often finds it [[absent]], it carries with it, now that it is an "object," part of the original [[narcissistic ]] [[cathexis]]. This first object subsequently becomes completed into the whole person of the child's mother, who not only feeds him but also looks after him and thus arouses in him many other [[physical ]] sensations pleasant and unpleasant. By her care of the child's body she becomes his first seducer. In these two relations lies the root of a mother's importance, unique, without parallel, laid down unalterably for a whole life­time, as the first and strongest love-object and as the prototype of all later love relations-for both sexes. The phylogenetic foundation has so much the upper hand in all this over acci­dental personal [[experience ]] that it makes no [[difference ]] whether a child has really sucked at the breast or has been brought up on the bottle and never enjoyed the tenderness of a mother's care. His development takes the same path in both cases; it may be that in the latter [[event ]] his later longing is all the greater. And for however long a child is fed at his mother's breast, he will always be [[left ]] with a conviction after he is weaned that his feeding was too short and too little.<ref>{{OoPA}} Ch. 7</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>Important [[biological ]] analogies have taught us that the [[psychic ]] development of the [[individual ]] is a short [[repetition ]] of the course of development of the [[race]], and we shall therefore not find improbable what the [[psychoanalytic ]] investigation of the child's [[psyche ]] asserts concerning the [[infantile ]] estimation of the genitals. The infantile assumption of the [[maternal ]] [[penis ]] is thus the common source of origin for the androgynous formation of the maternal deities like the Egyptian goddess Mut.<ref>{{LDV}} Ch. 3</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>[The] strong [preoedipal] attachment of the girl to her mother ... is fated to give way to an attachment to her father. This step in development is not merely a question of a change of object. The turning away from the mother occurs in an atmosphere of [[antagonism]]; the attachment to the mother ends in [[hate]]. Such a [[hatred ]] may be very marked and may persist throughout an entire lifetime; it may later on be carefully overcompensated; as a rule, one part of it is overcome, while [[another ]] part persists. The outcome is [[naturally ]] very strongly influenced by the actual events of later years.<ref>{{NILP}} Ch. 5</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>Her love had as its object the [[phallic ]] mother; with the discovery that the mother is [[castrated ]] it becomes possible to drop her as a love-object, so that the incentives to hostility which have been so long accumulating, get the upper hand.<ref>{{NILP}} Ch. 5</ref></blockquote>

<blockquote>The mother-[[identification ]] of the [[woman ]] can be seen to have two levels, the preoedipal, which is based on the tender attachment to the mother and which takes her as a [[model ]] and the later one, derived from the [[Oedipus]]-complex, which tries to get rid of the mother and replace her in her relationship with the father. Much of both remains over for the [[future]].<ref>{{NILP}} Ch. 5</ref></blockquote>